Love Lessons; Help Me Love
I need your help.
I don’t know how to help bring healing to a divide that is so deep in our culture and world. I know I have to do something to help and have no idea what to do or how. I can’t form words that reflect the shame and sadness I feel for the divide between groups of people. My whole being shudders more every day with a feeling of powerlessness and hopelessness because I am not contributing to a solution that can create change.
I see African-Americans, Muslims, Latinos and want to say to them; How can I help to heal this problem? What can I do to be more tolerant and have more appreciation for who you are? And most important to me is; How can I express how sorry I am for how you have been put down and made to feel unwelcome, or less than, or inadequate?
It’s not enough for me to love more deeply. It’s not enough for me to be kinder and more present and to see others more clearly. I need to know what I can do to create a real change in our understanding and tolerance towards all others. I want to apologize for what has happened and continues to happen to hurt so many. I want to beg forgiveness. And I never do. I don’t know how. I only know I bear responsibility for this gaping wound.
So I am asking you to help me understand how I can help do what is possible to create healing. How can I give of my self in ways to heal this darkness and bring light to others that lack tolerance and have the same kinds of fear I once had?
It’s true, I had these fears. I did not know why or that I was intolerant and yet I was. I grew up in a homogenous world and only saw what was around me. My world was so small. By some grace I see things differently now. The way I used to see the world was inadequate and shortsighted. I have spent many years trying to change that in my own consciousness and always feel as if I am not doing enough.
This problem is immense and overwhelming and I am only one person. But I am one person with a huge desire to help make things right. I am one person who is now willing to learn and help create something new. There is a seed of hope in me that wants to grow into something bigger and better than I know my self to be right now. By asking you for your input perhaps this seed will be nurtured to grow and blossom into some form of hope for others that will help bridge a gap that is now so desolate and full of pain.
Please, help me learn how to love in the ways that I don’t see are possible now. Help me understand what part I can have to create tolerance, understanding and real love between and through all of us. And help me forgive my self for the pain I have caused anyone who is different from me because of a lack of understanding and ignorance. I want to see what is true and I want to do what is right.
Please, help me love. I can’t love alone.
Melody, here are articles that can point us in the right direction, some are redundant and some written better than others. One book that really helped me understand race in the US is A History of White People by Nell Painter, its very academic but worth it.thanks for bringing it up.
Thank you Karen. I will read these.
I notice you did the Laban program and live in Washington. I did my training there with Pam Schick and Peggy Hackney many years ago. When did you do the training?
You can and have make/made a difference by what you teach your children. It’s generational and because you and I come from extremely intolerant parents you feel guilty by your part in this issue. Well, I don’t agree with you. You have instilled in your kids non-judgemental acceptance of all. Through the years I have observed this in you and have been in awe of how you, in spite of what was ingrained in us, have walked the walk!❤️
wow thank you mary